When You Have Every Reason To Be Happy... But You're Not...

This is a reality for a growing number of people: I "should" be happy, but I'm not.

I have a client who came to me for this reason, and last week another person in my circle emailed me saying, "It feels like even though I have everything I want (happy marriage, great kids, good job, fairly healthy, great family) , things just feel too 'hard'. Having a positive attitude requires work instead of coming more naturally..."

Your Emotions Are Never Wrong

I was talking to a client last week and something she said stood out for me because so people often say or think something similar.

My client was telling me about the frustration she's been feeling quite regularly. When I asked her to give me an example of a recent time she felt frustrated....  

Then she said the critical thing:

A Mother's Grief Became A Daughter's Weight Problem

Over the past few weeks, I've been blogging about the fact that our ancestors’ experiences got passed down to our generation, along with the color of our hair, our height, and our general personality traits.

Today I want to share the story of a client who inherited her mother's recipe for a lifelong battle with her weight. 

We'll call my client Rose.

What Happens When You Heal Ancestral Wounds?

You reshape humanity...

For the past couple of weeks, I've been sharing with you some of my experiences of a decade of work uncovering the ancestral wounds I carried within me. I shared with you the magic of doing your family histogram; and then last week, we talked about how the field of epigenetics has proven that these ancestral wounds do in fact get passed down, and I shared with you my story of the inherited deep sadness, longing and hopelessness. 

How Ancestral Wounds Affect Your Life

Last week I shared with you that in Family Therapy there's this cool tool we use called a Family Histogram. 

Doing my own histogram helped me discover that my great-grandmother's forbidden love for my great-grandfather, their illicit affair, and their early deaths leaving my grandmother an orphan, had affected my life in ways I hadn't realized before.