Over the past two weeks we’ve explored how we approach most things in life as a boxing match between two opposites.
In one corner: Fighting/fixing it
In the opposite corner: Settling/tolerating/putting-up-with it
These are the opposite sides of the same coin: Resistance to what is.
What if both fighting and settling just keep you in the thing you actually don’t want?
Last week we talked about how the energy of fighting/fixing helps to keep you feeling stuck. Essentially, the more we hold the energy of opposition to something, the more we fuel our subconscious belief that this is something that is hard to change. We therefore become our own opposing force! We are both the warrior AND the dragon we’re trying to slay!
What if trying to fix something is just keeping you stuck in the thing you don’t want?
Today I present to you that your valiant effort to fight something actually works against you.
Let’s start with a check-in.
We are scarcely 3 days into 2017 and already I feel a quiet power brewing for things to come this year. And as I do on most years, I seek to find a word that captures the essence of my intention for the year. I remember in 2013, the word was Create. In 2014, it was Serenity. 2016 was all about Wedding.
As I feel into this big energy for 2017, I find that my word and my intention for this year is: Forgiveness.
Your mate pushes your buttons. It's inevitable. But it's not your mate who installed those buttons.
Whatever your buttons and frustrations with your husband/partner/girlfriend might be, they were installed by the events of your childhood and early adulthood.
I've always known this and so I approach my relationship with my husband from a place of always seeking to have awareness of where I'm coming from. I also know that there are tools out there that can always help us in our growth journey.