The Spaciousness, Joy & Energy of a Resounding YES!


We learn to put up with a lot in life. We learn to accommodate. We learn to compromise. We learn to plow through all manner of things that we would rather not do.

A lot of this we learn in childhood. With time, we lose touch of our deepest inner truths. We get used to plodding through the routine of have to’s.

Then when one day you find yourself in the midst of deep grief, you suddenly find crystal clear clarity between what’s a ‘yes’ and what’s a ‘no.’ 

You have zero tolerance for ‘maybe’... for ‘I guess I can do that’... for ‘why not?’ 

You find that only the things that are a resounding yes are possible for you, because in grief your depletion is so absolute that only a resounding yes will energize you... anything else is an enormous energy expense.

A resounding yes flows with ease 💕

A resounding yes brings you joy 💕

A resounding yes gives you life 💕

As I reflect on this and notice the freedom of letting go of maybe, and why not, I realize:

This is how we’re supposed to do life, relationships, work, investments, marketing, sales, eating, playing...

Life feels lighter, simpler, more joyful when we clear the decks from anything and EVERYTHING that is not a resounding yes.

I invite you to test it out. I’m finding life pouring through me with greater ease the more I do it.

The Gifts & Messages In Your Emotions

Imagine yourself as a musical instrument.

Pretend for a moment that you’re a piano, or a guitar, or a drum.

Imagine the edges of your body being the walls of the instrument, and imagine feeling the hollowness inside. Your body as a resonance chamber for the sound the instrument will emit.

Imagine now the music being played, and imagine the waves of sound moving through the instrument. Invisible vibrations that are nonetheless absolutely real. The walls of the instrument feel the sound and move at the frequency of the vibrations from the keys being struck, the strings being pulled, or the hyde of the drum being tapped.

That is exactly what happens with your emotions.

Thoughts on Worthiness

Lately I've been chewing on the idea that everything in our lives flows from our deepest self-worth. But what exactly is self-worth? Where do we get our self-worth from? And what undermines our worthiness?

I bring this today because it might be an invaluable exercise for you to look at what areas of your life are presenting challenges, and get curious about whether deep down there might be some unworthiness at the heart of the problem.

When You Have Every Reason To Be Happy... But You're Not...

This is a reality for a growing number of people: I "should" be happy, but I'm not.

I have a client who came to me for this reason, and last week another person in my circle emailed me saying, "It feels like even though I have everything I want (happy marriage, great kids, good job, fairly healthy, great family) , things just feel too 'hard'. Having a positive attitude requires work instead of coming more naturally..."