Your mate pushes your buttons. It's inevitable. But it's not your mate who installed those buttons.
Whatever your buttons and frustrations with your husband/partner/girlfriend might be, they were installed by the events of your childhood and early adulthood.
I've always known this and so I approach my relationship with my husband from a place of always seeking to have awareness of where I'm coming from. I also know that there are tools out there that can always help us in our growth journey.
What do you focus on?
Are you focusing on how the world is going to hell in a hand-basket? Or how so many things in your life are not -yet- what you want them to be?
This is NOT a post about finding the "lesson" behind pain.
We've all probably had the experience of wanting to slap someone who tells you, "God only gives you a cross you can bear," or "there's always a silver lining," or "what's the lesson here?" None of that is truly helpful when you're in the grips of pain.
There are certain kinds of pain that only time and healing can make better. Perhaps it's the death of a loved one; or the void of a breakup; or the loss of a deeply cherished dream.
It's November 9th, 2016. It's my birthday today.
This surely takes the cake as the most rarified of birthdays for me. It feels quite odd to witness the mix of emotions that are alive in the country today. Whether elated, stunned, delighted or grieving, most people are experiencing a mix of intense emotion today.
Meanwhile, I'm connecting with the joy and pensiveness that my birthday always brings me.
It's election day today. The anxiety is reaching fever pitch and it is palpable in the air.
We're all no-doubt looking to put this election behind us, and yet perhaps more than any other election in the past, there's a good chance that no matter the outcome, a large portion of the country will be very unhappy with the result.